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Should I Hold My Autistic or Neurodivergent Child Back a Grade at School?

Deciding whether to hold your autistic or neurodivergent child back a grade at school can be a complex and challenging decision. Because of this it is important to consider various factors and gather information to make an informed choice. Here are some key considerations and a checklist to help guide your decision-making process.

1. Individual Needs and Abilities

One of the primary factors to consider is your child’s individual needs and abilities. Every child is unique, and their educational journey should be tailored to their specific requirements. Take into account their cognitive, social, emotional, and academic development. Consider whether they are able to keep up with the curriculum and meet the learning objectives of their current grade.

2. Academic Progress and Achievement

Evaluate your child’s academic progress and achievement. Consider if they are they are consistently struggling to meet grade-level expectations. Furthermore, do they require significant support and accommodations to keep up with their peers? Assess their performance in various subjects and consider feedback from teachers and specialists.

3. Social and Emotional Well-being

Consider the impact of grade retention on your child’s social and emotional well-being. Will repeating a grade negatively affect their self-esteem and peer relationships? Reflect on their social skills, friendships, and overall happiness in the school environment.

4. Individualized Education Plan (IEP) and Support Services

Review your child’s Individualised Education Plan (IEP) and the support services they receive. Determine whether their current educational program adequately addresses their needs. Furthermore, consult with their teachers, therapists, and other professionals involved in their education to assess the effectiveness of the support they are receiving.

5. School Resources and Support

Evaluate the resources and support available at your child’s current school. Consider whether the school has the necessary programs, services, and staff to meet your child’s needs. Interestling this is when many parents explore alternative educational settings or schools that may better cater to neurodivergent students.

Supporting Parents and Addressing Parent Guilt

Deciding whether to hold your autistic or neurodivergent child back a grade at school can evoke feelings of guilt and uncertainty for parents. It is important to acknowledge these emotions and provide support. Remember:

  • You are not alone: Many parents face similar decisions and struggles. Seek support from other parents, support groups, or professionals who can provide guidance and understanding.
  • Focus on your child’s well-being: Your decision should prioritize your child’s overall well-being and educational needs. Consider the long-term impact and what will best support their growth and development.
  • Consult professionals: Seek advice from professionals such as teachers, special education coordinators, therapists, and psychologists who have experience working with neurodivergent children. They can provide valuable insights and guidance tailored to your child’s specific needs.
  • Advocate for your child: Be an advocate for your child’s educational rights and needs. Communicate openly with the school and actively participate in the decision-making process.
  • Consider multiple factors: Remember that educational outcomes are just one aspect of formal education. Consider your child’s social and emotional well-being, their individual strengths and challenges, and their overall happiness and motivation in the current grade.

Checklist: Factors to Consider

Use this checklist to help you make an informed decision about whether to hold your autistic or neurodivergent child back a grade at school:

  1. Assess your child’s individual needs and abilities.
  2. Evaluate their academic progress and achievement.
  3. Consider the impact on their social and emotional well-being.
  4. Review their IEP and support services.
  5. Assess the resources and support available at their current school.
  6. Explore alternative educational settings or schools.
  7. Consult with teachers, therapists, and professionals involved in their education.
  8. Consider the Australian education system’s options of delaying a start date or repeating a grade.

Ultimatley, this decision should be made in consultation with professionals and based on a thorough understanding of your child’s unique circumstances and needs. It is important to prioritise their overall well-being and educational success.

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