Being neurodivergent has always been a significant part of my identity. But it wasn’t until my current bout of laryngitis silenced my voice that I truly began to appreciate the challenges faced by non-verbal and non-speaking autistics who navigate a world that often misunderstands and excludes them.
When Words Fail
As a neurodivergent individual, the world has never been a completely comfortable place for me. However, my recent struggle with laryngitis took me to a whole new level of appreciation for those who navigate a life of non-verbal communication on a daily basis.
I am currently in the peak of my laryngitis, I find myself unable to utter even a whisper. The physical pain of inflamed vocal cords is one thing, but the frustration of not being able to communicate verbally is another challenge altogether. It was a stark reminder of how vital communication is for our daily lives, something many of us often take for granted.
The Eye-Opening Doctor’s visit
One of the most frustrating experiences I encountered with laryngitis was a visit to the doctor’s office. I had made my husband tag along as I needed someone to help communicate my needs. This was not my regular doctor, but I expected a basic level of understanding and empathy from any medical professional. To my dismay, the doctor directed all their questions and conversation towards my husband, as if I weren’t even present.
Desperate to have my voice heard, I pulled out my phone and typed a message, asking the doctor to speak to me directly. To my astonishment, they continued addressing my husband, completely disregarding my attempt to communicate. The experience was not only infuriating but also left me feeling disrespected.
Whispers of Misunderstanding: A Humorous Encounter
Another incident occurred when I had some work being done in my home by a tradesperson. I informed them about my laryngitis using my phone to type out a message. Instead of responding appropriately, the tradesperson proceeded to whisper their replies to me. While it struck me as humorous at the time, it highlighted a significant lack of understanding about alternative communication methods.
A Deeper Appreciation for Non-Verbal Autistics
Through my ongoing experiences, I am gaining profound insights into the daily challenges faced by individuals who communicate in alternate ways. While my laryngitis has been ongoing for quite a while now, it is only temporary. It has opened my eyes to the struggles many endure. The world often misunderstands non-verbal individuals, assuming their silence means a lack of understanding. In reality, many non-speaking autistics have unique ways of communicating and processing information that deserve recognition and respect.
The Reality for Non-Verbal Autistics
For Autistic individuals who choose to communicate in alternate communication methods, this is their daily life and struggle. Using tools such as communication boards, sign language, or technology-assisted communication devices to express themselves. These methods are not limitations but rather powerful forms of expression that deserve acknowledgment and support.
Breaking Down Barriers: How We Can Do Better
My journey with laryngitis and my deeper understanding of non-verbal autistics have highlighted the need for more inclusive communication practices. Here are some steps we can take to ensure that may choice to communicate non-verbally are heard and respected:
- Listen Actively: When someone communicates through alternate means, take the time to listen actively and engage with their chosen method. Respect their autonomy and preferences.
- Do Not make assumptions: Do not assume the person who choices different communication tools are less than or do not understand.
- Educate Ourselves: Educate yourself about various forms of alternative communication methods. This knowledge can help break down barriers and foster inclusivity.
- Promote Inclusivity: Advocate for inclusive policies and practices in schools, workplaces, and public spaces. Encourage others to do the same.
- Challenge Stereotypes: Challenge preconceived notions and stereotypes about non-speaking individuals. Understand that silence does not equate to a lack of intelligence or understanding.
- Always talk to the person directly: Always direct conversation to the person directory and not communicate through a third person unless directly instructed by the person themselves.
My journey through laryngitis has been a humbling experience that has deepened my empathy and understanding of autistic individuals who choose to use alternate communication methods.
It has shown me that we need to be more inclusive, respectful, and aware when communicating with those who rely on alternate means of expression. By recognising the value of non-verbal communication and breaking down the barriers that surround it, we can create a more inclusive and understanding world for all neurodivergent individuals, whether temporarily or permanently non-speaking.
Wish me luck as I continue to navigate my non speaking journey.
Anita